How Being a Small Business Owner Has Taught Me So Much – The Journey of Ignoring Hate and Building for My Family
Starting a small business isn’t just about setting up shop and hoping the world buys in. It’s a whole journey of growth, learning, and, if I’m being honest, a lot of surprises along the way. Looking back on my journey, one thing is clear: it has taught me more about myself, my resilience, and the importance of staying focused on what matters most.
When I first launched my business, it felt like I was on top of the world. The excitement of being my own boss, creating something from scratch, and making an impact in my community was exhilarating. But what I didn't anticipate was how deeply personal and emotional the ride would get. No one really prepares you for the ups and downs, especially when it comes to the competition.
It's crazy how bitter and personal your competition can get. You start with good intentions, offering something you believe in, only to realize not everyone is rooting for your success. Some competitors get so wrapped up in jealousy or insecurity that they start tearing you down, sometimes in really hurtful ways. I've seen it all – from subtle backhanded compliments to outright bullying. And let me tell you, at first, it stings. It makes you question whether you're doing the right thing. It can make you want to throw in the towel and walk away from the whole thing.
But here's the thing I’ve learned over time: you can't let the bitterness of others derail your mission. The truth is, they’re not the ones you’re doing this for. They’re not the ones who matter. For me, I’m building this business for my kids. For my four children, who rely on me to be strong, to show them what hard work, perseverance, and dedication look like. Every decision, every challenge, every success – it's all for them.
I had to get to a point where I realized: ignoring the hate is just part of the process. It’s about staying focused on the bigger picture and not letting the negativity distract me from building the future I want for my family. The comments, the whispers, and the undermining will always be there – but my vision? That’s bigger than all of it.
Building your own brand means taking ownership of your story. You learn how to tune out the noise, rise above it, and create something that aligns with your values, your goals, and your purpose. And the truth is, you don’t have to compete with others in the traditional sense. Your focus should always be on being the best version of yourself, on offering the best service, and on making a positive impact, regardless of what others are doing.
At the end of the day, when you’re running a small business, you realize that the only opinion that truly matters is your own. If you’re doing right by your family, if you’re putting in the work, and if you’re staying true to who you are and what you stand for, then you’re winning – no matter what anyone else says.
The hardest moments are also the most rewarding. Each challenge is an opportunity for growth, and each success is a reminder that staying true to your values will always pay off. So, when the haters come, when the competition gets ugly, remember: you’re not doing this for them. You’re doing this for your children, your future, and the legacy you’re building for the ones you love most.
The journey is tough, but it’s worth every single step. Stay focused, stay determined, and keep building. Your brand, your dreams, and your family’s future depend on it.
